昨日のマインドフルネスグループの中で

認知療法の学習もやりました。

"Tyrrany of shoulds"

• I should be liked and approved of by everyone

• I should always be successful in the things that I do

• I should always do things perfectly

• I should be thin/muscular/sexy, etc

• I should always look good

• I should have a boyfriend/girlfriend

• I should be the same as everyone else (I shouldn't be different)

• I should feel confident in every situation

• I should be clear about my future and know where I am heading

• I should always say the right things at the right time

• I should always be able to meet other people's expectations

• I should always do what people want

• I should always feel calm and in control

• I should always be happy

• I should never make mistakes

• I should put other people's need before my own

• I should never say anything that might make other people feel uncomfortable

• I should always make the right decisions.

私達はたくさんの"shoulds"にしばられている。

本当は、いつでも"shoulds"でいるなんて、無理なんです。

いかに自分の中に柔軟性を作れるか。

例外もOKにできるか。

そんな包容力を自分の中に作っていけるか。